When a marriage falls apart we wonder, “What just happened?” We are shocked because usually marriages that fail appear very strong from a distance. But the reality is that a lot has been happening behind the scenes over a long period of time. Marriage doesn’t just fall apart suddenly. Marriage falls apart in installments, little by little, a crack here and a crack there, and a leak here and a leak there. Some marriages begin to fall apart before the couple says, “I do.” Usually it’s not the big things that cause divorce. It’s the small things that are neglected over a period of time. Remember, a stitch in time saves nine. Don’t neglect the small things in marriage. Take care of the small problems and the big ones will take care of themselves. “Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!” (Songs of Solomon 2:15) – Isaac Kubvoruno